What’s Inside Always Comes Out.

What’s Inside Always Comes Out.

What’s inside always comes out no matter what. People may pretend to be something or someone they are not. Inevitably, the truth always comes out, and you will see the person for who they really are. They can only pretend for so long. Something happens, and they forget they’re pretending. Looking at someone’s true self can be a frightening experience depending on how long that person has been pretending. Always, always remember when someone shows you who they really are, believe them.

Don’t be confused as to who the real, authentic person is. Be assured there is no confusion on the other person’s part. They know who they are, and they know why they do what they do. The illusion has all been all one-sided. That is until the real person shows up for some reason. Their motive is not important so don’t waste your time and energy wondering why; why they do what they do. Their reasons are their reasons. Besides, if you did ask, they would probably just lie. Or even worse, turn around and say it’s was your fault they lied because you’re responsible for all their lies and deceiving ways. You don’t need to know their motivations. Simply, know that you are better than all of that. Don’t allow that hatred into you. It’s doesn’t belong to you, with you. Merely, give it back to the person who gave it to you in the first place. Let them know it’s not acceptable and say goodbye.

Goodbye to them for you have no reason to hold on to them; to be in a poisonous relationship; or to let them in your life in any way. Don’t worry. I’m confident they’ll have no trouble finding another willing victim for their little game of pretend. Really, I’m sure it won’t be difficult at all. I bet they find someone by the end of the day.

Take what you have learned and move forward. Knowing in your heart next time you’ll be able to recognize someone’s pretending much more easily. Yes, my love, there will be a next time. But don’t fret; you are not the person you used to be. When put in the same situation, you will not act the same. Because you are transforming from the person you used to be, you will act different in the same situation.

The past is the past. Focus on today, the here and now. Live in the moment. When you are stressed, think of a positive experience in order to pull yourself out. It’s all within you!

This is from my upcoming book, My Life In Secret.

It will be published in September, and will be available on Amazon.com

 

Check my website for further updates: http://kfmueller.com

BULLY

Bully.

What should you do when you get bullied? Most of the time, I think bullying is nothing more than a power struggle between the haves and the have nots. People are intimidated by strong people even if that person isn’t really strong. There just has to be a perception of strength. Jealousy also plays a part.

They want what you have, and they know they’ll never have “it.” SO the way they handle the situation, is by bullying; taking control of another person by belittling that person into submission. And, when that person doesn’t immediately crumble under the pressure, the bully becomes more and more filled with explosive hatred.

What’s a person to do? Simply, remove yourself from the epic situation as sweetly and as quietly as possible. There are silver linings in all clouds. Idiots are everywhere. Get used to it. Iyanla Vanzant says, “When you see crazy walking down the street, cross the street!”  At times you can cross that street, and sometimes you cannot. Do your best.

You can’t control anyone but yourself. Try to stay out of all the chaos. You are tuned in more clearly than you think you are. Do what feels right to you; stay connected to peace. These so-called idiots of the world will eventually get what’s coming to them.

Hey, you never know. You might even be around to see it. Which is glorious to experience, I can attest to it. I’m not exactly saying to rejoice in others’ misery. But . . . it is delightful to see the powerful fall of their own demise.

You know who you are. I’m not going to join others in beating myself up.

You are not going to put me in the hot seat because I’m not going to sit there!

Stay focused and don’t let others tell you who you are.

Take what you can from each experience and grow.

Bullies will always be bullies. Then tend to surround themselves with like-minded individuals. Always, expect the same from these people. Then, you’ll be prepared for the attack if it comes, and if the attack never comes, all the better. You know who you are. Don’t let toxic people get under your skin. Otherwise, that toxicity will stay and grow within you. You know better.

Simply, be the mirror that reflects all that hatred back to the bully. Don’t take on other people’s problems. You have enough of your own.

Always remember, you are a being of light. Don’t let the darkness creep in. Look around, and see where you are. You are worthy of more, much more. Know it. Say it. Mean it.

Each day is a new day, a new beginning. It may bring good; may bring not so good. That’s life.

The good and the bad go together hand in hand. No one can continue to bother me unless I allow it. Don’t take all the ugliness with you. Leave it where you found it with that beautiful person, who attempted to give it to you in the first place. That’s where it belongs. Don’t try to make sense of what happened.

Don’t waste your energy where it is not needed. What happened . . .  happened. Let it go. Stay focused on where you’re going; knowing that challenges will come up, and you will live through them.

This is from my upcoming book, My Life In Secret.

It will be published in September, and will be available on Amazon.com

 

Check my website for further updates: http://kfmueller.com